Nancy Virginia Ben


Nancy Ben, 82, went to be with her Lord on May 31, 2019 with family at her side. She was born on August 23, 1936, to OJ and Beulah Inez (Kirby) Gordon. Nancy grew up in Little Rock, Mississippi in Greenland community where she graduated from Beulah Hubbard High School before attending East Central Jr College in Decatur, Mississippi. After college, Nancy worked for the BIA in Philadelphia, Mississippi where she met Henry Ben who became her husband and love of her life. They moved to Oklahoma where she enjoyed being a homemaker when she wasn't continuing her secretarial work which included work with the BIA, Sequoyah High School, W.W. Hastings Hospital, and Northeastern State University before beginning a long time career in banking. Many will remember Nancy greeting and helping them at Liberty State Bank and Bancfirst before she retired from Bancfirst in Tahlequah.

Nancy had a green thumb and took great joy in her flower gardens. She enjoyed supporting her grandchildren and attending their school and sporting events. Nancy loved to cook (and Henry loved her biscuits) and made sure that every dish was perfectly spiced and cooked. She enjoyed traveling with Henry to their homes in Mississippi and occasionally stopping at a casino or two along the way.

Nancy is preceded in death by her husband Henry (April 23, 2019) following 60 years of marriage, her parents, OJ and Inez Gordon, and two brothers, Bernard Gordon and Curtis Gordon.

Nancy is survived by her four children, Larry Ben and wife Tammi of Rogers, Arkansas, Cheryl Hamby and husband Bret of Choctaw, Mississippi, Paula Miller and husband Terry of Tulsa, Oklahoma, and Brenda James of Ellensburg, Washington; eight grandchildren, Daniel Miller, Dana Miller and (Jennifer), Zachary Hamby and (Brittney), Jeremy Hamby and (Heidi), Ryan James, Jennifer James, Tyler Ben, and Cody Ben; four great grandchildren, Olivia Hamby, Lily Miller, Elias Hamby, and Saige Hamby; one brother, Ralph Gordon and wife Pat; a host of loving nieces and nephews; and a host of loved ones that she always considered "family."
Published on June 3, 2019
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